So what do you do After the Date?

Now you have had the first date, what do you do?

Assuming that you actually enjoyed yourself on the date, let the person know. That goes for both men and woman. It doesn't have to be overly emotional or lovey-dovey just something simple like an email saying:

"I just wanted to drop you a line to let you know that I enjoyed myself last night and I hope you did so as well. Give me a buzz if you get a chance"

You open the door for the person to potentially agree to a second date with out looking like you are begging for it. The begging comes later in the relationship.

She
First of all, do not ask for someone telephone number or imply you will call if you have no intention of doing so. That is one of my personal pet peeves. Just say "Thanks for the evening, nite"

Again, assuming you had a nice date. He's ideas are right on. I of course, am partial to the flowers that arrive unexpectedly. If you are financially able to indulge in this extravagance it goes over really big. You want to show that you had a great time yet don't want to cross the line between that and appearing to be a desperate psycho, this is the hard part. Especially if you really liked the other person, be low key. Don't send ten dozen roses or leave numerous messages on their answering machine, one usually conveys the right message.

He
That right, there is a fine line between being romantic and being a stalker. But that doesn't mean that you have to play those old fashioned dating games either. Throw that "I can't call until three days" rule out the window. If you waited that long the person will have assumed that you did not think the date went well and have moved on. It was only your first date after all.

Now when you actually get to talk to the person again after they have responded to your little email and you got the go light to ask for the second date. Don't make it for the next night. If you date was on Friday suggest next Friday. It gives the other person sufficient time to prepare.

She
Ladies, if you liked the person it is okay to call them too. Forget the rule about "nice gals don't call men." That is as out of date as all of the rest of the things that start "Nice girls don't …" Most of the nice girls I know DO …. Don't play coy when the question of the second date comes around. If the guy asks when you are free, it is ok to say you are free the next night or Saturday night. There should be no stigma in being a homebody. Most men prefer home bodies to party girls anyway.

If you did not like the date with other person and they call you again, it is better to tell them right then and there that you do not think that you would like to see them again. Do not imply that you are busy and that is why. Don't be a wimp. Say something clear like: "I had a nice time, but I don't think I want to go out again. BYE"

He
If you planned the first date, let them plan the second one. Get them involved in the relationship and you will avoid having them feel like as if they are being led around by their nose.

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